Not always
but sometimes
when you meet someone,
or start a new job,
you can feel unsure and irritated
by their words, behaviour, whatever....
other times, you just kick it off.
I use to have those I liked & did not like
that is ..
until I started to work on myself.


Much to my amazement,
I found those things I didn't like in others
were also very much alive and kicking in me.
I can remember when I was a child being told 
"Oh you should be more like so and so"
which leaves you with the feeling
that you are seldom accepted for who you are ....
and so some of us start conforming to that "image"
that seems to be required of us
and then we do the same stuff to others
and on it goes.


Mostly its just about
a thing called "understanding"
but this subject has layers of other icky stuff as well
like ...you might very much like someone
and they seem to see things the way you do
and its all fun but then as time goes on
you see they don't have the same qualities
like ambition, education, earning power
so you find you just might have to distance yourself
and perhaps wonder if they are really your type!!


So we can waste years searching for perfection
in others and discarding others as we do so.


So my conclusions are
first love and accept yourself
even that "icky side" you don't,
or try not let others see.
Then, from that realisation,
you will be softer & more accommodating of others.


You will have a heart & mind that looks out for others
who are lonely or who appear different by your old standard.