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Baby bonding | Back |
| Bonding .. what is it? | This is intense feeling of love, affection and protection between you and your baby. It may develop in seconds, hours, days or longer. Close bonds are still possible even after separation for medical reasons or not coming together because of adoption etc. |
| What if it is not immediate? | Bonding may not be simple and can take time. Meantime, take care of the basics and cuddle them, everyday. Being a personal, individual experience, just be patient until that one day that you get that grin or smile. |
| Worrying signs | If you find that you don't feel attached to your baby and maybe resentful, talk with your doctor. Postnatal depression is a real illness and it's best to seek help as soon as possible. |
| Getting partner involved | Start with good communications and share both the housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. If work takes one of the parents away, expand the network of support from the inlaws and /or friends ... but set the rules for helping and sharing .... even starting BEFORE baby arrives, so 'everyone' is aware of the demands and ways to support each other. Issues that were taken for granted may also need to be considered. Some fathers get involved in the care of their babies very early. They feel comfortable with their baby & enjoy playing with them. Although some men naturally take on this role, it is particularly common for men whose partners have had a caesarean birth. Many fathers who are just learning about babies are so sensitive to suggestions or criticism that they give up. For some help, fathers should check out 10 Dad-tested ways of soothing a crying baby for some inspiration. And when you need a time out, here are some ideas on how to get a babysitter. |
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The How and Why of Twins Twins come with their many and varied challenges and bonding with them and keeping in touch with the whole family can be a challenge. Good luck! |
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