Snapping and lashing out

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What's
happening?

Are you suddenly snapping and lashing out at work
... and at the ones you love?

Are you too stressed?

Are your screaming and swearing and cursing too much?

Are your words always attacking people?

Do you just 'go off your face',
even over little, meaningless things?

A couple of
immediate
simple steps ... 		When we feel angry,
and not sure what to do to deal with a situation,
so the whole thing doesn't get worse .....

S N A P : Stop Now And Plan:

Tell yourself,
"I can stop, I need to stop!"
Step 1 It's a good idea to
take a couple of deep breaths, count to 10 ... 
(or even walk away from the situation),
and give yourself some time out to think
in an honest and positive way.
Step 2 Try not to bottle things up;
if something is annoying you, talk calmly to the person,
and try to find an agreeable solution.

It's better to talk calmly, 
not lose your cool,
and try to understand
where the other person is coming from.
Step 3 Develop a plan
and change your thinking
before a situation develops.

Practice slow, deep breathing for relaxation.
Think of something nice, and think peace before speaking .
Avoid getting angry, aim to keep problems small.
Be prepared to give the benefit of the doubt to all.
Consider a flexible solutions with alternative outcomes.



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Reasons for Anger:

Ask yourself is your anger reasonable?
Are you looking at your situation objectively?
Are you expecting too much from yourself or someone else?

Look at your reaction to your anger; was your behavior justified?
Change what you can about the situation, view it more realistically;
use relaxation techniques, go for a walk to clear your head.

Anger unchecked can escalate into a rage,
that may erupt in damaging emotional outbursts, or be unleashed
on family members.

Looking beyond the anger, may uncover other emotions hidden underneath.  Anger is often fuelled by blame.  Blaming yourself or others is a way
to avoid the real problem.  The energy you spend blaming could be
better spent on working to understand your feelings.

Anger may stem from feelings of failure, being unappreciated, exploited, manipulated, uncared for. It may be caused by feelings of helplessness, worthlessness, frustration, anxiety, guilt, fear, or resentment.
Once you can see these feelings behind the anger, you can find ways
to express your feelings in a positive manner.

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